How to deal with sexual harassment at work

I wish to write something to you that you thought you always knew but when you eventually find out what to do, you would be glad someone told you. Have you been or heard of people who are being harassed at their offices in one form or another?

What do you do if your boss wants sexual favours from you? I know that most people think this never happens but in reality there are many lives that have been destroyed from the offices. Many aspiring young men and women have struggled with these issues especially here in South Africa. Let me help you make wise decisions today.

I would start by saying that every personal decision that you make in your life have public consequences.

Most people do not think of their decisions in these terms, but every decision you make personally has public consequences. If you lie at your place of work and you are fired, your family may suffer the effects. If you personally decide to engage in extramarital affairs, your wife/husband may find out and leave you. This is why it is important to make wise decisions.

Now if you are a religious person, this is good stuff for you, but may be you are not a Christian and you say how does this concern me? Well, there is even more.

The visible impact of sin is that it destroys relationships. Sin damages relationships with your friends, your loved ones, with God and with yourself.

This is why the suicide rate has gone up and no one seems to understand why. People now hate themselves more than ever and are willing to take their own lives because this is what sin does. Sleeping with your manager does not only destroy your relationship with your colleagues and spouse, it eventually causes you to hate your own body.

The Bible talks about a Jewish boy called Joseph, his master’s wife tried hard to get Joseph to sleep with her. Joseph avoided her until at one point, he eventually confronted her head on. Joseph did something very powerful, he stepped out of the moment and painted her the whole story. Joseph said when he came to Egypt, he was a slave and his master (Potiphar) bought him and entrusted him with all his wealth. He then said something so powerful, in conclusion, Joseph said wouldn’t do such a wicked thing to his master and sin against God. He asked a question, why would the wife (being an Egyptian) want to have an affair with a slave?

Genesis 39:6-9 Now Joseph was handsome and well-built. After a time, his master’s wife took notice of Joseph and said, “Lie with me.” But he refused and said to his master’s wife, “My master does not concern himself with anything concerning me in the house, and he has committed all that he has to my charge. There is none greater in this house than I. He has kept nothing back from me but you, because you are his wife. How then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?”

This woman was furious and enraged, she falsely accused Joseph of attempting to rape her which resulted in Potiphar arresting Joseph and throwing him in jail. Let me pause here for a second to say this. In the days of old, if a Jewish slave attempted to rape an Egyptian, he would be executed immediately. the fact that Potiphar didn’t execute Joseph was a proof that he didn’t believe the story of his wife. He probably knew that the woman wasn’t speaking the whole truth. Here is the interesting part, the Bible says God was with Joseph.

Genesis 39:21But the Lord was with Joseph and showed him mercy and gave him favor in the sight of the keeper of the prison”

Here is what Joseph was saying to Potiphar’s wife; “do you want the world to know that you are having an affair with a slave? Have you debased yourself so much that you forget that you are an Egyptian and the wife of an Egyptian Governor? He wanted the lady to consider the full story. Life is about stories and if you could step back and see yourself as part of God’s big story, you will not destroy your story by the pressures of life. The Bible says “flee sexual immorality because it will eventually destroy your relationships (1 Corinthians 6:18)”.

May be you are one of those who have been abused and used at the office by your boss, may I suggest to you to turn away from that path and seek the living God. It doesn’t cost you anything if you turn away from that wicked path and seek God. Here is what I know, the Bible says

Mark 8:36 “What will it profit a man or a woman I’d he/she gains the whole world and lose his/her soul“.

You will never attain fulfilment and bear lasting fruits if you rely on another person to bless you. God blessed Joseph after he was arrested and locked up in prison. Joseph came out of the prison and was appointed the Prime Minister of Egypt. If someone would have told Potiphar’s wife that she would one day deal with Joseph as a Prime Minister, she would not have believed. Potiphar bowed to Joseph when he passed by.

Your boss will bow to you if only you stop that evil relationship and seek the face of God.

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Let me help you make wise decisions and live a fruitful life.

Join me in this prayer of fruitfulness.

Pray aloud:

Father, I receive your word and thank you for this word of wisdom. I am growing every day and I know that nothing can be exchanged for my soul. I live a life of purpose and I disconnect myself from every relationship that is not bearing good fruits in my life in the mighty name of Jesus; Amen.

If you have prayed this prayer, write to us and we will pray for you and send you materials that will bless you.

Remain fruitful!


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